someone told me something the other day that i think may change my whole entire life.
maybe not immediately.
but at least now i will be thinking about it.
hopefully i will be able to keep that kind of mindset.
i am so bad at telling people that i love my "negative" feelings. i don't want them to think that i am trying to change who they are. i don't want them to think that i am trying to guilt trip them.
i don't want them to stop loving me back.
but really these feelings that i feel are bad, can actually be really great. you can attack the problem without attacking the person.
and i think there's kind of a fine line in between the two, and its our job as human beings that interact with one another to find out what that line is.
and to stay on the right side of it.
the side that may not help your pride, but it will help everybody involved.
"you never need to apologize for sharing your feelings or concerns. never ever."
nobody has ever told me that before.
i've always had the mindset that any feelings i have about when i don't like the way someone is acting, is none of my business. that even though it made me unhappy, it would make EVERYBODY unhappy if i let them know how i felt.
so, yeah.
constructive criticism is exactly that. constructive. it builds relationships. it doesn't let things fester and grow ugly weeds all around it.
and sometimes, all you need to do is just say it, know that the other person heard what you said, and move on. sometimes that's all it takes to get over something.
sometimes it is that easy.